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The sign outside says that visitors are welcome. After having passed the home several times I decided to visit. It was a moving experience and a few months later I visited again. Whether you do so or not is a personal decision of course.
The home looks after orphaned children from the 14 southern Thai provinces and also from Bangkok. They range in age from new-born infants to teenagers but the majority are aged 0-3 years. The total number of children varies from week to week of course, as children arrive and leave.
The circumstances under which you can meet the children seem to vary. On my first visit I was told I could wander around the grounds and I didn't have to sign anything. On my second visit I was accompanied by my Thai girlfriend and she had to fill in an official visitors form.
As is the case when visiting children anywhere be conscious of your actions and always try to involve a member of staff.
On my second visit we were told we couldn't go inside any of the buildings but could just say hello from outside. However, a very kind nurse working at the home acted as our guide and took us inside.
The kids are just great. Many Thai people don't have the easiest of lives even when they have the support of their families but these children have nothing. The home provides them with the basics of life. They have shelter, clothes and food but not a lot more.
Don't expect to see sad and pathetic children. Seeing them playing so happily on my first visit was quite upsetting. They just get on with life. After meeting these kids the only people who seemed sad and pathetic were those who have a lot already but are greedy for more and let money control their lives.
The very young babies just do what very young babies do. It is the three and four year-olds that really get to me. These are the ones who just want affection and the protection of an adult. As I sat down on the steps to talk to them I had two little girls sit on my lap. One of them took my hand and folded my arm around her waist. The poor little mite just wanted a hug.
Some of the older children are a bit more reserved and a little wary of strangers which is hardly surprising after the start in life they have had. They are given basic education at the home and some children go to a school outside.
The home is quite well supported by the local community. An important aspect of Buddhism is merit making and I can't think of a better way to make merit than to help these children. Some people only 'make merit' by participating in high-profile, very visible merit making ceremonies but a low key visit to the home is, in my opinion, much more in line with the true meaning of merit making.
What can you give? The easiest option is money and a donation box is situated at the front office. With a majority of young babies at the home, people give items suitable for them e.g. disposable nappies (diapers), baby food and baby milk.
A lot of chocolate and sweet snacks are also given but the kids seem to overdose on sweet stuff. The nurse we met said what the children really need more of are clothes and shoes. Thais, being Thais, think first of food and everything else is secondary. What is the first thing a Thai asks you? "Have you eaten yet?" It's a cultural thing.
I have donated money and also some books and coloured pens. The books were for writing practice (English and Thai) and join-the-dots. I hope they kept some of the older children amused for a while.
A visit to the home isn't for everyone but for some it will be very rewarding. It's not easy though for over-sensitive people. Walking away from children who have so little when all they want to do is hug you is difficult, to say the least.
Foreigners do adopt children from the home. There are photos on display of parents with their adopted children. However, I have no idea about the process. The home can help with providing information though if this is something you would like to find out more about.
The home is located on the road going to Ko Yo (from Songkhla) before the bridge and before the Songkhla Hospital. From Hat Yai take a minivan or bus to Songkhla and tell the driver, the conductor or another passenger that you want to go to Ko Yo (Kaw Yaw). After you get off take a sawng-thaew towards Ko Yo and keep an eye out for the home on the left.
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