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Photo: A selection of Thai girls What's On This Page? |
Thailand - Girls Page 5Last updated: 11th July 2008 On this page are accounts of some experiences I've had with Thai girls. There is some background about the girls and what happened between them and me. Names have been changed and photos are not necessarily those of the girl referred to. I wrote this page a long time ago and forgot about it. When I read it again recently, I realised that basically it is a snapshot of my first year living in Thailand. Reading through it now, it sounds as if these words were written by someone else. All the problems I had with Thai girls in my first year were caused by ignorance, and as I have learned more I don't have the same problems. The kind of things I have described below would never happen now. Simply put, when I first arrived in Thailand, I was just another stupid farang chasing after all the wrong type of Thai girls and jumping to all the wrong conclusions. I acted like a big kid and I thought I was in a big candy store - it was the classic mistake. Because of the stupid way I behaved, I attracted girls for the wrong reasons. As with everything else in life, there is no substitute for experience. I was lucky that I got through that first year relatively unscathed. The moral here is not to be impatient, but to learn about Thailand and the Thais before getting involved with someone quickly and regretting it later. I still see lots of foreign men new to Thailand acting the same way as I once did. The girls I've written about here weren't necessarily bad girls, apart from the fact that some obviously realised they were dealing with a stupid foreigner who knew nothing, and they tried to take advantage. However, all of us have probably been guilty of that at some time in our lives.
Her brother got married and also had a child but then became a monk and disappeared without trace, not contacting the family ever again. Her brother's child was not wanted by its mother and ended up being looked after by Rung's parents. Her parents are therefore bringing up both grandchildren but the financial support comes from Rung who sends money home every month. So, in addition to looking after herself, she supports four other people. At one time she was also supporting her drinking, gambling grandfather but he gambled away any money he was given so she stopped giving him money. She moved to the south and got a job in a traditional Thai massage parlour where they trained her. The training lasted one week and cost her a couple of thousand Baht but it gave her a skill she could use to earn money with. She moved from this massage parlour to a more upmarket one later and that is where I met her. I went along for a massage one day and she was my choice of masseuse. It was the usual business where the girls are sitting behind a glass partition and you have to select the one you want. She didn't jump out at me initially but afterwards I wondered why, as when I saw her up close she was exceptionally pretty. Coming for Isaan, she has fair skin and I found out later that she has had surgery on her nose. The surgeon had done a very good job and her pretty nose complimented a very pretty face. She also had an amazing figure - very slim and very shapely. After that first massage she started coming to my room for more massages and things between us developed. We spoke about going back to her village together and on one visit to my room she said that she had agreed the time off work with her boss and we could go the following week. I spent a whole week with her and my feelings for her grew quite strong. I was really smitten. I'd found out that a married Singaporean guy 30 years older than her came to visit every three months and while he was in town paid her to be with him for the duration. We had agreed though that if he called again she would say that she had a boyfriend and she couldn't see him. I was happy with that. She hadn't been home for two years and as she was taking me back to meet her family I felt quite special. At her home we slept in the same bed but sleep was all we did. Every time I saw her in her nightdress I could hardly believe my luck. She looked gorgeous and my feelings for her were getting quite intense. The only thing I wasn't very happy about was the constant phone calls from her other 'clients', presumably Malaysians and Singaporeans coming to town who wanted to book some time with her in advance. I was totally in love with her (I thought). On the way back from Isaan we stopped in Bangkok for a night. She had lived in Bangkok for a number of years while she was married but just worked all the time and hadn't seen much of the city. I showed her a few of the well known sights and was quite surprised she hadn't seen them before. When I asked her what she wanted to do in the evening, she said she wanted to visit Go-Go bars to see the girls at work. This was a most unusual request but I took her to Patpong that evening and we experienced the seedier side of Bangkok, visiting some Go-Go bars and a sex show. I was totally turned off by the whole thing (which I had seen several times before) and besides, she looked far, far better than any of the girls flaunting their bodies. She was quite interested in what was going on though and as she watched the girls do their thing I was keeping myself amused by watching a group of elderly but 'wet behind the ears' farangs getting fleeced for lady drinks by every girl working in the bar. Shortly after returning from our trip together Rung started dropping bombshells. She told me she had a friend in Phuket who had suggested she move there to become a Go-Go dancer. This is typically how the girls move around the country. They will have a friend who tells them about another place and how much money they can make. The friend will help them get started and introduce them to work. Once they move there themselves they will then introduce other friends to the scene. I could now understand her interest in the Bangkok Go-Go dancing scene, she wanted to see what was involved before making a career change. She said she was fed up with her work and fancied a change. I think she saw Go-Go dancing as an easy job and an easy way to make good money. She certainly had the looks and the figure to do it. I was pretty horrified but what could I do? The quick answer to that is I could have bought her out but I will get on to that later. There was another upsetting aspect to Rung's line of work. There were occasions when I was expecting to see her but then I'd find out that she had been booked for the whole day (normally by a Malaysian or Singaporean). All that was required was Bt1,000 and she was theirs for the day. I have to stress that this payment was just for her company but I'd be a fool to believe there was nothing else going on. The Go-Go dancing talk died down a little but then Rung was to drop another bombshell. One day she suggested that I get a new girl friend. When I asked why she said it was because she wasn't good. When I started to press her about these comments I got the whole story. There was another regular customer from Malaysia she had been seeing on and off for a couple of years. Like the Singaporean he was also married and about 30 years older than her. This guy had recently got a divorce and had now offered Rung money to marry him. She said she didn't love him but he was going to make a one-off payment to her parents of Bt300,000 and give her money every month. She would also be able to get out of the job she hated. She was willing to marry him but it hinged on her parents' approval. It was at this point I decided I'd had enough and it was time to get out of the relationship. I didn't have anything to do with Rung for about five weeks but after I thought I'd got over her I sent her a text message to find out where she was. I wasn't expecting a reply. I imagined that if she had married the Malaysian she would be living in Malaysia and she would have a new phone number. However, she did reply and then I gave her a call. Apparently her mother had not agreed to the marriage so she had gone ahead with her original plan and moved to Phuket. She wasn't working as a Go-Go dancer but as a bar girl in Patong. I am not naïve and realised what this really meant. And it hurt. I got myself into a bit of a mess about her again and asked how much she would want to get married. She asked for Bt500,000 and then Bt25,000 a month. This wasn't really the kind of relationship I wanted to get into so I declined her offer. For a while she continued sending me messages revising her original offer downwards but still I wasn't interested in a relationship where I was wanted solely to provide money. After a period apart I had began to see the truth which previously had been obscured by my feelings for her and I knew that she wasn't interested in me for anything other than money. For quite a long time afterwards I was very bitter about Rung because of the emotional pain she had caused me and the fact she didn't want me for who I am but for my money. However, by trying to understand the reality of life in Thailand I can see her point of view now and I forgive her. Looking after her family in Isaan is a big financial commitment. Money is hard to come by for many people in Thailand and there is no welfare state dishing out money to those in need. Rung is not skilled or educated but she was born with a nice figure and a pretty face. These are her only assets in life and she knows it. She also realises that her looks won't last forever, maybe another 10 years. She is not stupid enough to believe that she can hang on to her youthful good looks forever. Thais are pragmatic people. She knew that she only had another 9 or 10 years to try to set up herself and her family for the rest of their lives. The only way to do this was to work the bar scene as much as she could to accumulate a nest egg, or to find a man who would provide for her. Either choice depended on her looks and because those looks wouldn't last, she was in a hurry. She made me an offer and I'm sure that if I had agreed she would have been true to her word. She never loved me but love doesn't put food on the table. Perhaps she would have developed feelings for me over time if things had worked out? I never expressed any interest in her offers so she knew she was wasting her time with me. She dropped me altogether to continue searching for what she needed. In the Western world the majority of people take the basic necessities of life for granted so they are more interested in attaining emotional needs. People look for love, respect and mutual understanding in relationships. Thailand is different. As I said before these things aren't worth much if the basics of life aren't there. Rung's attitude and behaviour was typical Thai realism. My only criticism of Rung was greed. There are millions of Thais doing honest work seven days a week for Bt6,000 to Bt10,000 per month. Rung didn't want to work but wanted a foreigner to keep her. For doing nothing though, she wasn't satisfied with getting the equivalent of an average wage, she wanted significantly more. I sent her a greeting for Songkran in 2004 and the reply indicated she didn't know who had sent the message. She had obviously deleted me from her mobile phone address book. I decided that the best thing for me was to do the same thing. I deleted her number without copying it down so I had no way of contacting her. I actually saw her a few days later. She was back in town from Phuket with another girl and they were with two Malaysian clients. She had that typical bar girl strut. I saw her but I'm not sure if she saw me. If she did she just ignored me. I never saw or heard from her again. After the Christmas 2004 Tsunami I was concerned about her as Patong had been affected so badly. If I'd still had her number I would have called but I couldn't. I really hope she is OK. Things didn't work out between us but at one time my feelings for her were intense and I hope she got what she wanted.
Lee was another girl in the Thai massage business but she didn't have Rung's looks or figure. There are a lot of girls around like Lee. She gave a good massage and for a long time, when I wanted a massage I returned to her rather than choosing a different girl each time from the hundreds of girls available. She appreciated this loyalty, and I tipped her generously, so she treated me well on each visit. She insisted that despite almost every customer wanting more than what was on offer she did not perform any sexual services. How true this was I don't know. I've been lied to so often by Thai girls I take everything I'm told now with a large pinch of salt. Because she wasn't a beauty she didn't get the business (or the tips) that Rung used to get when she was doing the job. She also didn't get the offers from men that Rung got to accompany them while they were in town, or the same offers of marriage. Sometimes when I visited Lee at 8pm I was her first customer of the day. When Rung told me that she was going to marry a Malaysian for an initial sum of money and a regular monthly income, Lee made me an offer. She asked for Bt100,000 and with this money she wanted to buy her parents a new house in Chiang Mai as their home at the time wasn't very nice apparently. For this amount she said she would marry me and after that she would only ask for enough money so that she didn't go hungry - Bt100 a day or so and not the Bt25,000 a month that Rung had demanded. The majority of girls in the Thai massage business are like Lee. They are not blessed with the looks that may allow them to snag a man to take care of them. They come from poor backgrounds and haven't had the opportunity of a decent education so their earning power is low and their career prospects are limited. They often have children back home being looked after by their parents and it is up to them to send money home to support their families. They work long hours for little pay and don't have many prospects. As they get older they attract even fewer customers. For these girls life isn't easy.
During one of our first conversations she told me that she didn't want a boyfriend and that she was more interested in making money from her business. I should have taken more notice of that comment but I arrogantly thought that maybe I could change her mind. Whenever I met Nok our meetings would always follow the same format. She would arrange to meet me at a large department store near her shop and would always bring along at least one friend, and sometimes as many as three. When we met she would walk arm-in-arm with her girl friend and I would walk behind. They would always arrive hungry and want to eat and I would always be expected to pick up the tab. When the bill came it would be passed straight to me as the Thais went quiet and stared into their laps. After leaving the restaurant we would always pass a women's clothes shop and Nok would go inside. She would try things on and act like she wanted to please me with her choice. She would ask for my approval and as soon as I said I liked something that would indicate to her I was prepared to pay for it. After I'd fed her and her friends, and bought an article of clothing or some new shoes for her she would jump in a tuk-tuk to go home while I'd be left behind to find my own way back. One of Nok's friends had a Norwegian boyfriend. I met him on one occasion and he seemed like a nice guy. He was in the process of buying a condo in Thailand and I think that Nok liked the idea of finding a foreigner who could buy a condo for her. I was quite interested about the ins-and-outs of buying property in Thailand so asked the Norwegian a lot of questions. My interest in buying property was the only thing that stirred Nok. She actually suggested that I buy a condo and go back to England so that she and her girl friend could live there. She said it half-jokingly but there was some seriousness in the comment. I'm sure that this arrangement would have suited her very well. I was 99% certain that Nok was just using me but I know that the culture is different in Thailand and it is normal when first dating a respectable girl for her friends to be present. Because I was a bit confused I gave her the benefit of the doubt for a while but things never changed and she never actually showed any interest in me or expressed a desire to be with me on her own. I therefore stopped calling her. Several weeks passed and I knew I wasn't going to call her but she called me, telling me she missed me. I wondered if I been wrong before; that after all she did really like me and I had misinterpreted her actions? For this reason I gave her another chance and we agreed to meet again but exactly the same thing happened. She turned up with a friend from Bangkok who was in town for a few days. They were both hungry. It appeared that Nok had fancied the idea of going out to eat with her friend but didn't fancy the idea of paying for the meal so she had given me a call. They ordered loads of food and what they didn't eat got taken back in a doggie bag for Nok's other friends. If she had taken me into a clothes shop again that would definitely have been the end but she didn't. I thought there might still be a chance it could work. But then, when I tried calling her all I got were lame excuses why I couldn't visit her, or her friends would answer her mobile phone and tell me she had gone shopping. I'd had enough so didn't call Nok again. She never called me and I haven't seen her since. Like Rung I was angry with Nok at first but what had she done? I had done all the chasing and had shown a willingness to spend money on her. She didn't ask me to do any of this. Why should I have presumed that because I'd spent a bit of money on her she should like me? I could criticise her by saying she led me on and should have told me straight away if she wasn't interested. But that would then be just like the West where girls are only too eager to put men down straight away without giving them a chance because they don't meet the girl's unrealistically high standards. That's one of the reasons I became so fed up with girls from my own culture. I can't knock Nok (pun intended). I tried to win her over by spending a bit of money on her but I can't blame her for not being interested in me. My attitude was arrogant and similar to the foreign men who come here and think they can buy any Thai girl they see.
During my lesson she would walk past the classroom waving and smiling but despite all the attention I didn't get a chance to speak with her after my first couple of lessons. Then, after finishing my third lesson, I saw her sitting at a computer in another room as I was leaving the school. I went into the room and spoke with her for a while. Up close she was even more gorgeous with huge almost black eyes and perfect teeth. It was around lunchtime and we agreed to go for lunch - me, her, and her two friends. At lunch we had the usual small talk and I asked her if she had a boyfriend, not imagining she would have. But she did, and worse still (for me anyway), she was getting married in just over two weeks. I was devastated. She looked like the perfect girl and had come on to me so strongly that I had no reason to believe she was about to get married. We agreed to be friends and she said she would invite me to the wedding. The next time I went to school I saw Apple running out of reception as fast as she could as she saw me approaching. I thought that I must have insulted her or something by expressing an interest in her and that she was upset with me. I let it pass. A few days later I saw her friends at the local 7-Eleven and then found Apple hiding round the corner. I got her phone number and we spoke later. She told me she had got into trouble with her boss for speaking with me and that is why she had been avoiding me. She told me that she still liked me very much and wanted to see me. Apple asked to borrow some money which wasn't a problem, I was happy to give her some money if it made life a bit easier for her leading up to her wedding. I was a bit upset though when she also asked me to loan her friends money. These 'loans' were never repaid but I learnt later that her so-called friends had put a lot of pressure on her to ask me. Her wedding day arrived, which I attended, and I was treated like a very special guest. It was a privilege for me, an outsider, being invited to a Thai wedding and I felt very honoured. She looked absolutely stunning and I can't say that I didn't feel a degree of envy. Her husband wasn't quite what I imagined and seemed to be more interested in drinking and smoking with his mates than being with his beautiful bride. They'd known each other for about seven years so I guess he was a bit bored with her by then. After the wedding she moved back to her family home but we kept in touch. She started to play a clever game with me just a few months after getting married. She began calling to tell me her husband was mistreating her and did a good job at playing the victim. I felt sorry for her at first. She turned up at my room a few times, always with a sad story and she would tell me she had no money. I'd invariably give her some money before she left to go home. One time she showed up after getting a job selling life insurance and wanted me to sign a policy so she would get her commission that month. She said all the right things but I could tell from her body language that she had no feelings for me and she made sure she kept reminding me she was married in order to keep me at a safe distance. On another occasion she asked for Bt40,000 to pay back a family own but I refused. She had me going for a while but I realised eventually what was going on. She told me several times she was coming to visit but never turned up and never called to say she wasn't turning up. She kept in touch but with each conversation, the more I realised what a liar she was. She also messed me around more than any other girl has ever done. At one point when my relationship broke up she called and told me she had separated from her husband. We arranged to meet. I travelled to the town where she lived and she said she would meet me that evening. She didn't show up. I wasn't feeling too good that evening so in a way it suited me but I was disappointed that she just didn't show up without calling. We arranged to meet again the next day but once again she didn't show up. I was furious and never spoke to her again. I later found out that the story about her splitting up with her husband was a lie. She was one of the most gorgeous looking Thai girls I have met but an absolute disaster.
With her looks it would be easy to sell herself to a succession of men for money. Em, to her credit and for whatever other reasons, chose not to take that path. Instead she found herself a Thai boyfriend who appears to have money even though I am not convinced his money comes from an altogether honest source! Em doesn't really have any feelings for this guy (if what she says can be believed) but likes having someone to support her so she can be lazy. Her boyfriend paid for her to go to hairdressing school and while she was doing that he paid to rent a room for her to stay in and supported her. When she finished and got her diploma he rented a shop with accommodation above thus providing her with a place to stay and a ready-made business. The shop was all fitted out and ready to accept customers. It remained shut for quite a while as Em was basically too lazy to work. She then took on an employee and made a half-hearted attempt to open the shop. Instead of trying to entice real customers she just asked her friends and acquaintances if they wanted shampoos, etc. If anyone did then she got the girl she had employed to do the work, she didn't do anything herself. With no attempt to build a proper customer base there was no business and after a couple of months she just put up the shutters, preferring to eat, sleep and chat with her friends. Her boyfriend doesn't seem to object to her laziness and the fact there is no money being earned from the business. I suspect his primary concern is keeping her tucked away and out of the way of other men. There are no limits to her vanity. She spends half her waking hours looking at her own reflection in windows and mirrors. Her first question to other people is always if they think she looks beautiful. When she isn't looking at her own reflection she is preening herself, applying make-up, trying on clothes or dying her hair yet again. Her hair changes colour every week. Yes, I can't deny she is pretty but I just can't take her seriously. After a while I got bored with her and she didn't like the fact I ignored her. In Em's world every man who sees her should fall down at her feet because she is so beautiful. One time she asked me to take some photos of her. What was going to be a few casual photos turned into a major photo shoot and it took her an hour to get ready as she applied make-up, messed around with her hair and tried on different clothes. Not only did this cost me time but also money in getting prints done. I thought the results looked fine but when she saw the photos her face turned sour. She studied herself in the photos and made some negative comments. Apparently my photography skill had not made her look as beautiful in the photos as the vision in Em's mind of her own beauty. I had given my time and spent money doing her a favour and didn't even get a thank you due to her incredible vanity. I didn't see her for a few months but spotted her driving a virtually new Honda Jazz. She hadn't opened her shop so was still not working and I doubt she ever will. The car is obviously a present from her boyfriend which makes me even more suspicious about his source of income.
She is about as perfect as Thai girls get. Her whole life is about serving others. She takes care of her parents and two brothers, one of whom is a monk. When her uncle (my friend) is in town she looks after him and any friends that he may have with him. She has a car and on my last visit to Bangkok she drove us around for hours every day, including a trip out to Damnoen Saduak to see the floating market. Nothing is ever too much trouble for her and she never grumbles. She may feel tired or irritable at times but she never shows it. Every thought she has is about the welfare of other people and not herself. She has studied hard and now that she has a job she works hard. She speaks extremely politely as the better class of Thai girls do, always referring to me as Khun Phil and always using lots of 'khas'. When she eventually gets married she will take amazing care of her husband, just like she takes care of her family now. When I see foreign men getting their hearts broken over girls who lie and cheat and don't think anything of them (it has happened to me too) it just seems incredible that they allow this to happen when there are so many girls in Thailand like Lukkate.
She was 18 when I met her. Ten years earlier she had lost both her parents in a car crash. The accident had orphaned her and her sister who is two years younger. Her grandmother attempted to bring the girls up with very little money but it had obviously been a struggle financially. It must also have been very difficult emotionally for two girls of six and eight to lose both their parents the way they did. At some stage the girls moved in with an old American guy who lived in Songkhla. When she told me this I immediately became suspicious but I don't think he was abusing them or anything. It seems he had retired to Thailand and was lonely. He had rented a house, and to overcome his loneliness had filled it with Thai females. He had kind of adopted the two girls as his daughters. There were also other Thai females in the house but I don't know their ages or what relationship they had with him. He provided for the girls, and they looked after the house while at the same time keeping him company. It seemed to work for both parties. He got sick however and from what Chim told me it was a serious illness. Friends of his took him to Bangkok and Chim doesn't know what happened to him next. He may have died or gone back to the States, she just doesn't know. His phone stopped working and she never saw him again. This left her and her sister without a place to live so they went to Hat Yai. Chim set herself up with a desk and a mobile phone on the street offering cheap rate phone calls. Many Thais do this to earn a living. She wasn't earning much, though. She was actually in debt owing more on her phone bill than she had earned from selling phone calls. The American guy had taught her a little English and with this skill she was hoping to find work in a hotel or restaurant. The salaries for the jobs she was applying for were as little as Bt4,000 a month. It was her plan to continue her little phone business if she got a job but this meant she would almost be working around the clock. Her sister was going to school and Chim was paying for her education. This wasn't a lot in Western terms but it was a lot to her. My routine changed after getting a bad eye infection and I stopped meeting her as I no longer went for my fruit juice in the mornings. Perhaps she found some work after all? Maybe in the future I will bump into her again. Hearing Chim's story upset me but there are many young people in Thailand like her. When she first told me a little bit about her life my initial reaction was to dive into my pocket. However, I can't bail everyone out who has financial problems in Thailand. I introduced her to my girlfriend at the time and they spoke about the possibility of getting Chim a job in a beauty salon but she first wanted to see if she could find work in a hotel or restaurant. The massage or prostitution industry would have been an easy option for her. She was very young, not unattractive and would have been in demand but she has moral standards as many Thai girls do and she should be proud of that. Girls who say they can't do any other work are not telling the truth.
Her Singaporean brother-in-law opened a small Internet shop which he and his wife ran. To increase his profit margins after installing a high speed broadband line he began keeping the shop open 24 hours a day. To help out with running the shop they sent for Wongsa and I used to see her every day. She is a sweet girl and never gets upset about anything. The Internet shop got crazy at times when the schoolkids arrived to play online Ragnarok but she always remained cool. Whenever I visited she was always there laughing and smiling. It didn't matter how late or early it was, she always seemed to be working but she told me that her brother-in-law did the night shift. She slept in her sister and brother-in-laws very small, cramped room. They both smoke heavily while she doesn't and in a small room that couldn't have been much fun. I felt sorry for her because she never got a day off but she never felt sorry for herself. It would have been rude to ask what she was earning but I imagine it was very little. One day she disappeared. When I asked after her I discovered that her father had been taken ill with a bad leg. The family have some land in the north-east apparently which her parents work. With her father not being able to work she had been summoned home to work in the fields as she is the only unmarried daughter. I couldn't figure out exactly what work she had been asked to do but from the mime her sister performed for me it seemed like back-breaking stuff and of course she would be outside all day in the blistering heat. After hearing this it made me realise why her work in the Internet shop didn't seem so bad to her after all. I mentioned above that she is a really sweet girl because that's how she comes across. However, her brother-in-law took me aside one day and gave me a really stern warning about Thai women. I had never seen him so serious before and the bottom line of his little sermon was don't marry one. He had been married to Wongsa's sister for about five years. He told me how they act perfectly to draw you in but once married they change very suddenly. He had opened another Internet shop in Isaan for the family to run for a source of income. The business was running at a loss though. He had paid to set everything up but it turns out they were letting everyone play on-line games for free. He also told me how much of a drain the extended family is on his finances. He specifically mentioned Wongsa and told me that although she looks sweet and totally uncomplicated she is involved in lots of things that would surprise me. I took all this with a pinch of salt at the time but some of his points were valid. Thai girls are never what they seem on the surface.
I walked past a cute young thing who gave me a big smile and then started to chat. She was from Surin but worked in Bangkok and was in her early 20's. She insisted on showing me around and we wandered around for a couple of hours before she decided to go home but she made sure she got my phone number first. When she said she was going home I thought at first she was suggesting I go back to her place with her but she meant she was going home alone. It was pleasant company for a couple of hours, she didn't cost me any money, and I never had any expectations because I have experienced this type of behaviour before. The next morning I was out and about early when she called wanting to meet again. She sounded desperate to see me. I hailed a taxi and went to meet her. She announced she wanted to go shopping which, along with eating, is the favourite pastime of Thai girls. She wanted to go to MBK but being dragged around a large shopping mall anywhere in the world - even Bangkok - is torture for me so I said no.
To stop her dropping hints every 30 seconds I just gave her Bt1,000 and told her to buy what she wanted. She bought a pair of shorts and two sets of black underwear. Shortly after making her purchases she decided she wanted to go home - alone again. She still had enough change from the money I had given her to get a taxi so off she went and that was the last I saw of her. She had invested a bit of time keeping me company and in return she had a few new clothes. Nothing about what happened surprised me in the least but there was a time when I might have been disappointed, angry or frustrated with what had happened. Just because a young, smiling girl approaches and befriends you in Thailand it doesn't mean much at all. She will be looking at what she can get out of you without any guarantees of offering anything in return apart from some female company. There is nothing wrong with this. It isn't as if the girls make and break promises. They never say they will sleep with men if the men buy them things. If men are disappointed when this type of thing happens it is only because of their perceptions of Thai girls, setting false expectations and not understanding what is actually happening. The problem with Apple was that after I left Bangkok she never stopped calling me. She obviously thought she was on to a good thing but it was only a good thing if she could meet me in Bangkok. I told her I would give her a call when I next visited the capital, hoping that would stop the phone calls. It didn't. She just kept calling and calling until eventually I stopped answering my phone. Once Thai girls latch on they can be extremely tenacious.
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